Am I a Doormat?

A doormat is laid down to wipe feet upon; it is “abused” for the purpose of getting rid of rubbish clinging to the bottom of shoes. We have all heard—perhaps we have even said—“I feel like I am just a doormat in this situation.”

The truth is, how we are treated is often a result of how we see ourselves, which leads to how others regard us, and visa versa. Consider the following verse:

We need to always keep in mind that God has a good plan for us—one designed for our welfare, not for our harm (Jeremiah 29:11). It seems reasonable to conclude that if our image from God is being harmed and damaged (if we are feeling “like a doormat”) we are not operating in the Lord’s good plan for us. Sometimes, we are not in a position to stop abusive treatment toward us, and it becomes not only necessary, but right to actively seek help while entrusting the situation to the Lord’s will and deliverance. Although many of God’s children have been unjustly oppressed, their suffering was righteously endured if it was experienced willingly as part of God’s greater plan and divine purpose. However, when we misguidedly give ultimate power over our lives to another imperfect human being (instead of entrusting supreme authority only to the Lord), we unwisely turn from God’s good plan for our welfare and perhaps forfeit how He might have used our situation for the welfare of others.

Jesus said to the Jews after teaching a parable about the Good Shepherd who guards his sheep at all costs, “No man taketh it [my life] from me, but I lay it down myself” (John 10:18). In other words, Jesus made the decision to willingly suffer and submit to God’s will; it was not based on the will or forcefulness of any other human being. To summarize simply and briefly: Jesus did not allow anyone to interfere with God’s purposes or damage His relationship with the Father, and neither should we.